Too cold:
This is when the children fall asleep on the way home in a blizzard. It’s induced by the extraordinarily long commute where every driver ahead of, beside you and coming at you is a nimrod. In my case, I am a nimrod as well, leaving extraordinarily long gaps between me and the guy ahead of me. Sometimes this gap is so large and welcoming it prompts other drivers to pass me and set up shop there, cutting their total commute by a nanosecond but unleashing a bout of white-knuckle terror in my blue minivan as he recrosses the centerline ahead of me filling my entire windshield with slush, and the entire interior of the van with obscenities.
The children at first enjoy this hysterical pursuit of trying to find the edge of the road without going off it. But before long the general malaise of watching objectless white all around them, along with me blasting the heater at blister-inducing temps, will make them fall asleep.
After a commute home like this, you’ll say a little prayer when you reach the driveway in one piece, then curse your husband for not having cleared the driveway yet, get stuck approximately five yards from the garage, back up, gun it, narrowly miss hitting the side of the garage and finally land safely inside. You’ll hit the garage door remote and watch the door thud closed behind you. For a moment, you feel complete relief.
Then you remember your two little packages in the backseat. You have to decide if it’s too cold to let them slumber. They are, after all, outfitted in nylon sausage casing, topped with large fleece hats (the youngest wearing a hat built for a man twice his size and half his attitude). They would play in this same blizzard for at least an hour if told not to (5 minutes if told to).
They are inside their regular street clothes, which are inside their outdoor clothes, which are inside the van, which is inside the garage. They’ve got four layers going for them. They’ll doze for at least 20 minutes, which, in mom time, is one load of laundry, dinner started and email checked. In real mom time, it’s enough to rewind the taped Young & The Restless, hit the couch and eat Cheetos.
Do I leave them? Are Cheetos orange?
This little trick works best when they are old enough to wake up and let themselves out of the van and march into the house in a fury. They’ll take this opp to throw their sausage casings all over the floor, totally dismissing your “organizational” hooks (not out of spite, out of habit). They’ll waylay you for making them take a nap, as well as leaving them alone in the scary interior of their own garage. Beg off by offering them Cheetos.
Too hot:
This is nothing to joke about. It’s why I bought a minivan. The entire sides of the vehicle open, leaving a full-on gust of hot August wind blowing through it day or night. In this case, the children must be prepared beforehand should a nap come on unexpectedly. There’s nothing wrong with an outing to Walmart in their bathing suits. This will help make your decision easier when you get home and they’ve conked out in the backseat, offering you not only a few minutes of quiet, but a beautiful summer afternoon to boot. (Still on the couch watching Y&R, but beautiful nonetheless.)
The advantage of summer is that you can leave the door open to the house so you have ears on the situation. Invest in a cheap screen door leading into your garage. Thirty bucks at the nearest hardware store will provide you with good-old-fashioned spy gear for Moms, while keeping the mice out at the same time. If you have air-conditioning in your home, consider leaving the door cracked as a worthwhile stupid thing to do.
If you are feeling randy or ambitious, you might even do a little outdoor project, thereby making you look a whole lot less guilty if their grandmother, the Schwan’s man or the FedEx guy should show up and stumble upon the situation.
Anyway, don’t get too excited about this idea. Children don’t sleep in the summer unless by complete accident.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Monday, November 16, 2009
Falling asleep in the minivan
It happens one of two ways:
Too soon:
They fall asleep as you are backing out of the garage en route to the mall. This can happen at any time, 9 a.m., 2 p.m., midnight. However it never happens on a four-hour trip to another state. My advice is to press on. If you start letting them dictate your schedule now, you’ll never go anywhere again.
Once you get to the mall, you won’t be able to wake them up without a full marching band. (However, if you were trying to sneak out of their bedroom at night, a bent carpet fiber would alert them.)
Tips to wake them:
Once you get them awake, things get ugly. There’s crying, arguing, lost hats, untied shoes. And that’s just you. You have to get them past the whole disoriented stage. They are likely to: Punch their brother. Punch you. Accidentally lock the keys in the car. They never come up short in their bag of tricks.
What should you do? I like to strong-arm them myself. It makes my time spent at the gym all the more worthwhile. If they are wearing big thick coats, make it a game to catch them by a fistful of coat and zipper and plunk them out of the car and onto the pavement with a laugh and a flourish. Meanwhile, you can threaten them with things like “now” and “you better” in a deadly whisper.
This is why Big Box Stores were made for moms. You can drag two screaming children with hair matted to their face and yours through a set of double doors and grab a cart without anyone so much as giving you a sympathetic nod or asking if the children are yours. (Everyone realizes you’d never steal these two children.) Anonymity is good in these situations.
Too late:
They fall asleep anytime after 4 in the afternoon. This is the witching hour. You’ll see them about to nod off in the rearview mirror, look at the clock and decide this cannot happen. It will mean nothing but grief for you come their bedtime in a few hours.
Your first instinct is to start up some lame-brained conversation, which the kids will ignore. Better to pick up the cell phone and try to carry on an intricate convo with your boss or ob/gyn. This gives them a firm goal.
Next you might fiddle with the radio and try to find a boppy little song. Do not voice your opinion on what song that might be. Should you find a likely suspect, rush past it, hitting the seek button furiously. This is like waving the red cape to a backseat full of bulls.
If the dancing doesn’t unfold, you might try a round of “Knock-Knock” jokes. This doesn’t usually work on infants. Toddlers, however dumb, get these jokes because they think “Knock-Knock” is the punchline. You can pretty much say anything you want. Have fun with this but make sure they aren’t at the repeat-everything stage yet or you’ll be in a handful of trouble when they go to school.
“Who’s there?” they ask. “Your dad,” you say. “Your dad who?” they ask. “Good question,” you reply. While you giggle inside enjoying how naughty this makes you sound, the kids have already moved on to the next “Knock-Knock” joke with no punchline whatsoever. They are simply trying to say it louder than each other.
Worst-case scenario: The No-One-Is-Steering Game. (Do not attempt on icy roads. This is for professional amateurs only.)
With your hands in the air, scream in horror. As the gleeful panic unfolds behind you, very, very carefully, steer with your knees. Do not attempt this in a silk skirt. Time the car “coming to life” on straightaways at first. This will save you a lot in car insurance the first few times you try it.
As your confidence builds, try slow, rounded corners – better yet – Ys in the road where you have a 50/50 shot of not killing them. When the initial thrill of the car driving itself wears off, ask the kids to call out commands and then promptly argue with them. “Don’t you dare go faster, Car!” you’ll scream. (If you’re feeling creative, you might even come up with an even cleverer handle for Car.)
When they scream “Faster!” go ahead and pound your foot on the accelerator. Careful not to blow anything. This gives them the feeling of control and speed. If you’re driving a minivan, it gives them the feeling of control. Then take command of Car again like the authoritative figure you think you are.
If they start getting cocky, go ahead and coast to a near stop. (Ignore the cars behind you; do they have to deal with these children at bedtime tonight? No, I didn’t think so.) Wait for the kids to be “good enough” for the car to listen again. From there, you might have an argument between them, you and Car, as to whether or not to stop for a green light or go for a red one. You get the picture. Just make sure a cop doesn’t.
This little song-and-dance will probably get you about five minutes further down the road, at which point a good song will come on or your boss will call and you’ll forget your mission just long enough to look up and see you’ve lost them. Crap. You reach back and grab their legs, trying to pull them off. Still, they sleep.
You drive home, trying to gauge if it’s too cold or too hot to let them sleep in the car all night.
Too soon:
They fall asleep as you are backing out of the garage en route to the mall. This can happen at any time, 9 a.m., 2 p.m., midnight. However it never happens on a four-hour trip to another state. My advice is to press on. If you start letting them dictate your schedule now, you’ll never go anywhere again.
Once you get to the mall, you won’t be able to wake them up without a full marching band. (However, if you were trying to sneak out of their bedroom at night, a bent carpet fiber would alert them.)
Tips to wake them:
- Try tapping your brakes especially hard (stand on them) as you pull into a parking spot. There’s nothing like mom "driving like an idiot” to get them excited.
- If their movie is running on the DVD player, turn it off. This should wake up even the deaf one.
- Try to unwrap a candy bar for yourself. They will want half before their eyes are open.
Once you get them awake, things get ugly. There’s crying, arguing, lost hats, untied shoes. And that’s just you. You have to get them past the whole disoriented stage. They are likely to: Punch their brother. Punch you. Accidentally lock the keys in the car. They never come up short in their bag of tricks.
What should you do? I like to strong-arm them myself. It makes my time spent at the gym all the more worthwhile. If they are wearing big thick coats, make it a game to catch them by a fistful of coat and zipper and plunk them out of the car and onto the pavement with a laugh and a flourish. Meanwhile, you can threaten them with things like “now” and “you better” in a deadly whisper.
This is why Big Box Stores were made for moms. You can drag two screaming children with hair matted to their face and yours through a set of double doors and grab a cart without anyone so much as giving you a sympathetic nod or asking if the children are yours. (Everyone realizes you’d never steal these two children.) Anonymity is good in these situations.
Too late:
They fall asleep anytime after 4 in the afternoon. This is the witching hour. You’ll see them about to nod off in the rearview mirror, look at the clock and decide this cannot happen. It will mean nothing but grief for you come their bedtime in a few hours.
Your first instinct is to start up some lame-brained conversation, which the kids will ignore. Better to pick up the cell phone and try to carry on an intricate convo with your boss or ob/gyn. This gives them a firm goal.
Next you might fiddle with the radio and try to find a boppy little song. Do not voice your opinion on what song that might be. Should you find a likely suspect, rush past it, hitting the seek button furiously. This is like waving the red cape to a backseat full of bulls.
If the dancing doesn’t unfold, you might try a round of “Knock-Knock” jokes. This doesn’t usually work on infants. Toddlers, however dumb, get these jokes because they think “Knock-Knock” is the punchline. You can pretty much say anything you want. Have fun with this but make sure they aren’t at the repeat-everything stage yet or you’ll be in a handful of trouble when they go to school.
“Who’s there?” they ask. “Your dad,” you say. “Your dad who?” they ask. “Good question,” you reply. While you giggle inside enjoying how naughty this makes you sound, the kids have already moved on to the next “Knock-Knock” joke with no punchline whatsoever. They are simply trying to say it louder than each other.
Worst-case scenario: The No-One-Is-Steering Game. (Do not attempt on icy roads. This is for professional amateurs only.)
With your hands in the air, scream in horror. As the gleeful panic unfolds behind you, very, very carefully, steer with your knees. Do not attempt this in a silk skirt. Time the car “coming to life” on straightaways at first. This will save you a lot in car insurance the first few times you try it.
As your confidence builds, try slow, rounded corners – better yet – Ys in the road where you have a 50/50 shot of not killing them. When the initial thrill of the car driving itself wears off, ask the kids to call out commands and then promptly argue with them. “Don’t you dare go faster, Car!” you’ll scream. (If you’re feeling creative, you might even come up with an even cleverer handle for Car.)
When they scream “Faster!” go ahead and pound your foot on the accelerator. Careful not to blow anything. This gives them the feeling of control and speed. If you’re driving a minivan, it gives them the feeling of control. Then take command of Car again like the authoritative figure you think you are.
If they start getting cocky, go ahead and coast to a near stop. (Ignore the cars behind you; do they have to deal with these children at bedtime tonight? No, I didn’t think so.) Wait for the kids to be “good enough” for the car to listen again. From there, you might have an argument between them, you and Car, as to whether or not to stop for a green light or go for a red one. You get the picture. Just make sure a cop doesn’t.
This little song-and-dance will probably get you about five minutes further down the road, at which point a good song will come on or your boss will call and you’ll forget your mission just long enough to look up and see you’ve lost them. Crap. You reach back and grab their legs, trying to pull them off. Still, they sleep.
You drive home, trying to gauge if it’s too cold or too hot to let them sleep in the car all night.
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